The Silence Hurts: Why He Pulls Away When You Get Close (And How to Fix It)
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We need to talk about the silence.
You know the feeling. You have a great few weeks with him. You feel connected. You feel safe. And then, out of nowhere… he pulls back. The texts get shorter. The replies take longer.
If you are like me, your anxiety immediately kicks in. You think, "What did I do wrong? Did I say too much? Am I too needy?"
So you try to fix it. You text him again. You ask if he's okay. You try to be the perfect, supportive partner. But the harder you try to close the gap, the faster he runs away.
I used to think this was because I was broken or "too much." But I learned something recently that changed everything.
It turns out, men don't pull away because they don't love you. They pull away because a deep biological switch in their brain has been flipped off.
Relationship psychologist James Bauer calls it "The Hero Instinct."
It sounds old-fashioned, but it’s actually biology. Men are driven by a need to feel essential. When we try to "fix" the relationship or over-nurture them, we accidentally tell them, "I don't need you; I can handle this." And without realizing it, we kill their attraction.
But there is a way to flip that switch back on.
There is a "Secret Signal"—a simple 12-word text message—that triggers his Hero Instinct immediately. It stops the pulling away and makes him feel a surge of protective devotion towards you.
It sounds crazy, but if you are tired of the silence and the anxiety, you need to watch this video explaining how it works.
Don't let your anxiety ruin a good thing just because you didn't know the secret code.