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Welcome to The Pederson Effect. I used to think healing was a battle to be fought. Now, I know it’s a garden to be tended.

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I’m M. Pederson, the writer behind The Pederson Effect. I live with Trigeminal Neuralgia and am currently saving for Neurolenses to fix my misaligned vision. Every coffee you buy helps me cover the $1,000 cost so I can keep writing stories of healing and resilience. Thank you for being part of my survivor story. I'm not one to ask for help but this would really help right now. I enjoy writing and creating but its really hard right now, I feel like I'm letting you all down not being on top of things. Thank you for taking the time to read this and being a part of my world much love ❤️ 
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I don’t share a lot about my personal life, but I wanted to be real, up front, and honest here. So first, hi and welcome to The Pederson Effect.My name is M. Pederson. For many years, I felt silenced. Stuck in a dark place. Lost. No direction. No purpose. I wrote a lot during those years. I guess that’s where I slowly crafted my real skill: writing. My writing has always been… a bit messy. I’m known for run-on sentences, spelling errors, and chaos on the page. But my words are real, raw, and unapologetic. They come from a heart that has dealt with a lot of pain from life’s chaotic mess. Failed relationships that felt so right but still ended.Losing people—friends, loved ones, pets.Living with health issues that limit me.Chronic pain.Mental health struggles. I am a survivor of many things. I’m not saying I’m an expert, or a doctor, or a therapist, because I’m none of those. I’m just a survivor on a healing journey, trying to find my way out of the dark. I’m learning to manage, to cope, to build better outlets—positive ones instead of negative ones. Healing is a journey where you fall on your face a lot.I’ve fallen plenty. Drowning in My Own Pain There was a time when I honestly didn’t know how to stop drowning in my own pain and torment. A recent breakup hit me hard—harder than I expected. It hurt like hell. In the middle of that, I had one real friend who showed up for me and is still with me today on this healing journey. She helped me find my light within. She made me feel less invisible. She gave me advice when I was hurting and gave me the mantra I live by now. Her words will forever be etched into me: “You’re not alone. You matter.” Without her being that positive voice, I’d probably still be hiding, wading in the deep end, searching for a light in the darkness and fighting with all the old negative words in my head: “You’re not enough.”“You’re the problem.”“You’re to blame.”“It’s all my fault.” For so long, I believed those lies. But the truth is, it was never all me. Yes, I have my faults, flaws, and imperfections. I don’t claim to be perfect. But I am not the monster my pain told me I was. Why I Started The Pederson Effect I started The Pederson Effect because I wanted to make a difference, even if it’s a small one. If I can reach people who have felt like me—silenced, broken, stuck in something rough—and help them feel a little less alone, then this is worth it. I believe that within all of us, there is a light. When we find it, it guides us. It’s hard to explain, but it’s that tiny spark that whispers, “Keep going,” even when everything hurts. There is hope.There is beauty, even in pain. Let me explain what I mean by “beauty.” When something bad happens to me, yes, I freak out. I’m human. But to process it, I write it down. Then I rewrite it. I turn the narrative into something a little more positive, or at least something I can hold without breaking. It helps me grieve the situation better. I’m not telling anyone that they have to do this. I don’t know your situation. I can only speak for mine. But for me, these things have helped. I’m a creative person. That’s my outlet. Where I Am Right Now Right now, my healing journey has had a bit of a setback. I’ve recently learned that I have Trigeminal Neuralgia, and it has affected my sight. The pain and strain make it harder to do the things I love—like writing and creating—for long stretches at a time. I’m learning how to manage it, but it means I have new limits I didn’t used to have. I’m in the process of getting new glasses (Neurolens), which should help with the alignment and some of the pain. Until then, I’m working around the discomfort the best I can. So if you notice that I don’t post as much as I want to, or there are quiet periods here, please know it’s not because I don’t care or I’ve given up. It’s because I’m having to learn new ways to pace myself, listen to my body, and honor my limits. I don’t want to let my readers down. This space matters to me. You matter to me.But right now, I also have to learn how to protect my health while still showing up in the ways I can. Thank you for being patient with me, for reading my words, and for walking this messy, imperfect journey with me. A Special Shout Out To end this post, I want to give a special shoutout to my co-creator and the person who has been riding this journey with me: A. Nova. You are a true angel in disguise. You’ve helped me in more ways than I can count on this healing journey. I’m so glad we can learn as we go and share our pain in a positive way with the world. Our friendship means the world to me. Words can’t fully express my gratitude for you pulling me out of the darkness when I truly needed a friend. You took time—busy or not—to listen when I was hurting, confused, or lost. You showed me my light was always within me; I just needed to let it shine. I hope that everything you’ve done for me, I’ve been able to give back to you in some way. I appreciate you, and I thank you, girl, for going on this incredible healing journey with me. We’ve brought out so much creativity in each other and stepped out of our comfort zones together. I’m proud of you, and I’m proud of me. Hugs. You’re the best. — M. 💚 Gentle Disclaimer I’m not a therapist, doctor, or mental health professional. Everything I share here comes from my own lived experiences, personal opinions, and what has helped me on my healing journey. Nothing on this site is meant to be medical, mental health, or professional advice.Please reach out to a qualified professional or trusted support in your area if you’re struggling, and contact local emergency services or a crisis line if you’re in immediate danger or feel like you might hurt yourself. You’re not alone, and you deserve real support.

The Pederson Effect: Finding My Light After Years of Feeling Silenced

<h2>The Power of Poetry in Grief</h2>
Grief is a profound and often overwhelming experience that touches everyone at some point in their lives. Finding ways to cope and heal is essential, and for many, poetry offers a unique pathway through the darkness. Poetry has a way of capturing emotions that are difficult to express, providing solace and understanding in times of sorrow.

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Poetry's power lies in its ability to articulate the inexpressible, to put into words the feelings that may seem too complex or painful to share. Through poetry, people can connect with others who have experienced similar losses, fostering a sense of communal healing.

<h3>Connecting with Emotions</h3>
When navigating grief, it is vital to connect with and understand your emotions rather than suppress them. Poetry offers a safe space for this exploration. By reading or writing poems, individuals can give voice to their pain, anger, and confusion, helping them to process these intense emotions in a constructive way.

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Engaging with poetry allows individuals to explore their inner world, encouraging reflection and introspection. This process can lead to personal insights and a deeper understanding of one's grief journey.

<h3>Finding Comfort in Shared Experiences</h3>
One of poetry's most comforting aspects is its ability to convey shared human experiences. Reading poems by others who have navigated grief can provide comfort and reassurance, reminding us that we are not alone in our struggles. These shared experiences create a sense of solidarity and understanding.

Many poets have eloquently captured the essence of loss and healing, offering their words as a balm for others. Their poems can serve as a guide, helping readers to see that healing is possible and that their pain is recognized and validated.

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<h3>The Act of Creation as Healing</h3>
Writing poetry can be a therapeutic exercise that allows individuals to channel their grief into creativity. The act of writing provides a sense of control and agency, empowering individuals to shape their narrative and find meaning in their experiences.

As they craft their poems, individuals can explore different perspectives, experiment with language, and ultimately, discover new ways of understanding their grief. This process can be profoundly healing, offering a path toward acceptance and peace.

<h3>Practical Ways to Use Poetry in Grief</h3>
For those looking to incorporate poetry into their healing journey, there are several practical approaches to consider:
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 <li>Read Widely: Explore a variety of poets and styles to find works that resonate with your emotions and experiences.</li>
 <li>Write Regularly: Set aside time each day or week to write, allowing poetry to become a consistent part of your healing process.</li>
 <li>Join a Group: Consider joining a poetry group or workshop where you can share your work and connect with others on a similar journey.</li>
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By embracing poetry, those experiencing grief can discover a powerful tool for healing, connection, and transformation. Whether through the words of others or their own creations, poetry offers a beacon of hope and understanding in the midst of loss.

The Unbroken Bond: Using Poetry to Navigate Grief and Find Healing

Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you purchase through them, I may earn a commission.I used to think I was just unlucky.I worked hard. I tried to "think positive." But no matter what I did, I felt stuck in the same loop of struggle. I was fighting for every inch of ground, while other people seemed to just... flow.As a survivor, I learned that this isn't about being lazy or not smart enough. It’s about biology.When we go through trauma or chronic stress, our brains get stuck in "Survival Mode" (Beta Waves). We are constantly looking for threats, not opportunities. We literally cannot see the path to abundance because our brain is too busy trying to keep us safe.I recently learned about a concept called the "Theta Wave." This is the brain state where creativity, intuition, and "luck" happen.But here is the catch: Trauma shrinks the part of the brain (the Hippocampus) that produces these Theta waves. That is why "hustling" doesn't work when you are healing. You are trying to run a marathon with a broken leg.You don't need to work harder. You need to switch your brain frequency.There is a simple, 7-minute sound wave ritual developed by neuroscientists that helps reactivate that shrunken part of the brain. It guides you out of "Survival Mode" and back into "Flow Mode."If you feel like you are working hard but staying in the same place, your brain might just need a tune-up.<a data-mce-href="https://3c91ekx1sa5kya98ncw9-6hu8y.hop.clickbank.net" href="https://3c91ekx1sa5kya98ncw9-6hu8y.hop.clickbank.net" target="_blank" rel="noopener">[CLICK HERE TO LISTEN TO THE 7-MINUTE AUDIO THAT REWIRES YOUR BRAIN]</a>

Why You Can’t "Hustle" Your Way Out of Trauma (And What Actually Works)

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Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you find value in these resources, I may earn a commission at no cost to you.We need to talk about the silence.You know the feeling. You have a great few weeks with him. You feel connected. You feel safe. And then, out of nowhere… he pulls back. The texts get shorter. The replies take longer.If you are like me, your anxiety immediately kicks in. You think, "What did I do wrong? Did I say too much? Am I too needy?"So you try to fix it. You text him again. You ask if he's okay. You try to be the perfect, supportive partner. But the harder you try to close the gap, the faster he runs away.I used to think this was because I was broken or "too much." But I learned something recently that changed everything.It turns out, men don't pull away because they don't love you. They pull away because a deep biological switch in their brain has been flipped off.Relationship psychologist James Bauer calls it "The Hero Instinct."It sounds old-fashioned, but it’s actually biology. Men are driven by a need to feel essential. When we try to "fix" the relationship or over-nurture them, we accidentally tell them, "I don't need you; I can handle this." And without realizing it, we kill their attraction.But there is a way to flip that switch back on.There is a "Secret Signal"—a simple 12-word text message—that triggers his Hero Instinct immediately. It stops the pulling away and makes him feel a surge of protective devotion towards you.It sounds crazy, but if you are tired of the silence and the anxiety, you need to watch this video explaining how it works.Don't let your anxiety ruin a good thing just because you didn't know the secret code.<a data-mce-href="https://hop.clickbank.net/?affiliate=mpederson1&amp;vendor=hissecret&amp;lp=9&amp;tid=66489crah32exh90mqu4fiii6a&amp;sb=t" href="https://hop.clickbank.net/?affiliate=mpederson1&amp;vendor=hissecret&amp;lp=9&amp;tid=66489crah32exh90mqu4fiii6a&amp;sb=t" target="_blank" rel="noopener">[CLICK HERE TO WATCH THE VIDEO AND LEARN THE 12-WORD TEXT]</a>

The Silence Hurts: Why He Pulls Away When You Get Close (And How to Fix It)

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<a title="Brain Training Video" href="https://youtu.be/7qu6qzDg-LA?si=Do2x6RemjOWQcJlZ" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-mce-href="https://youtu.be/7qu6qzDg-LA?si=Do2x6RemjOWQcJlZ">Brain Training Video</a>This post contains affiliate links. That means if you click a link and make a purchase, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. I only recommend tools and resources that I believe can truly help with healing and growth.<figure id="figure-vl80qj5fvmmihpfcta"><img id="vl80qj5fvmmihpfcta" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1349130044/photo/adorable-boss-nerd-dog-working-on-remote-project-online-conference.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=U1ewebn-fj4BoDpkAFFCrBtWt-CQv6j4ozhO07UYu10=" alt="Adorable Boss nerd dog working on remote project online conference." title="Adorable Boss nerd dog working on remote project online conference." class="object-cover bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1349130044/photo/adorable-boss-nerd-dog-working-on-remote-project-online-conference.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=U1ewebn-fj4BoDpkAFFCrBtWt-CQv6j4ozhO07UYu10=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>Everyone asks me how I trained Bain. The truth is, I didn't. Bain came into my life as an old soul in a tiny body. He senses my anxiety before I do. He comforts me without being asked. He is, quite literally, my angel.But I know I got lucky.Most dogs aren't born knowing how to be calm during a meltdown. Most dogs chew shoes, bark at the mailman, and pull on the leash. And it’s not because they are "bad dogs"—it’s because their brains are bored.I believe every dog has the potential to be a "Bain." They just need to be understood.If you are struggling to connect with your pup, or if their behavior is adding to your stress instead of healing it, you don't need a shock collar. You need to engage their mind.I’ve been looking into methods that align with "The Pederson Effect"—gentle, smart, and healing. I found a program called "Brain Training for Dogs." It doesn't use force. It uses games. It teaches your dog to think, which calms them down (just like writing calms me down).If you want to see how to turn your "problem child" into a genius sidekick, check out the games here: <a title="Brain training for Dogs" href="https://319aagy-j6xkskaauwtc8y24us.hop.clickbank.net/" target="_blank" data-mce-href="https://319aagy-j6xkskaauwtc8y24us.hop.clickbank.net/" rel="noopener">Brain Training for Dogs</a>Your dog wants to be good. Sometimes they just need you to speak their language.<a title="Brain Training video" href="https://youtu.be/7qu6qzDg-LA?si=Do2x6RemjOWQcJlZ" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-mce-href="https://youtu.be/7qu6qzDg-LA?si=Do2x6RemjOWQcJlZ">Brain Training Video</a>This post contains affiliate links. That means if you click a link and make a purchase, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. I only recommend tools and resources that I believe can truly help with healing and growth.

My Dog Bain Is an Angel (But If Yours Is a Little Devil, Read This)

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They say Thanksgiving is about gratitude, but this year, it feels more like an endurance test. If you are dreading tomorrow because it’s your first holiday without your best friend, I want you to know: you aren't alone, and your grief is valid.For years, Thanksgiving had a rhythm. The sound of paws clicking on the kitchen tile while you cooked. The watchful eyes waiting for a piece of turkey to "accidentally" fall. The post-dinner nap where they curled up at your feet while the football game played on TV.Tomorrow, the house might feel a little too quiet. You might instinctively reach down to sneak a piece of ham to a dog that isn't there. You might feel a lump in your throat when family members ask, "Where's Cashie?"It’s okay to feel that sting. It’s okay if you need to step into the bathroom and cry for five minutes while everyone else is laughing. You aren't being "dramatic." You are mourning a family member.3 Ways to Get Through Tomorrow:Acknowledge the Empty Spot: Don't pretend everything is normal. It’s okay to say, "I really miss him today." Save a Plate (The Spirit Plate): It might sound silly, but put a tiny piece of turkey on a saucer and set it outside or near their ashes. It’s a physical way to include them in the ritual. Exit Strategy: If the noise and the questions get too much, give yourself permission to leave early or take a walk. Your mental health comes first.Be gentle with yourself tomorrow. The love they gave you is still at the table, even if they aren't.Happy Thanksgiving, from my wounded heart to yours. 🍂P.S. If you are struggling to handle the waves of grief this holiday season, I created a Guided Grief Workbook to help you navigate these exact moments. You can find it <a title="Pet grieving Workbook" href="https://linktr.ee/thepedersoneffect" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-mce-href="https://linktr.ee/thepedersoneffect">Pet Grieving Workbook</a><figure id="figure-og8p633dummig97ikb" class=""><img id="og8p633dummig97ikb" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2159150735/photo/a-jack-russell-terrier-dog-sleeps-on-a-rug.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=BtP-zpEmSW1mOfmI8yrWCvVdExpZiatZWoe8JkFQ-yA=" alt="A Jack Russell Terrier dog sleeps on a rug" title="A Jack Russell Terrier dog sleeps on a rug" class="object-cover bg-gray-100" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2159150735/photo/a-jack-russell-terrier-dog-sleeps-on-a-rug.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=BtP-zpEmSW1mOfmI8yrWCvVdExpZiatZWoe8JkFQ-yA=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>

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