Why I Write for the Grieving Heart: The Healing Power of Pets

If you’ve followed my journey on The Pederson Effect, you know that my mission is simple: to leave an impact, to survive trauma, and to heal.

I talk a lot about surviving life’s hardest moments—loss, pain, mental health, heartbreak, the kind of “I don’t know how I’m going to get through this” days. But there is one specific kind of heartbreak I don’t think we talk about enough.

The silence of a house when a pet is gone.

Not the dramatic kind of silence. The kind that sneaks up on you.

The silence where you still listen for paws on the floor.
The silence where you still look for them in their usual spot.
The silence where your brain hasn’t accepted what your heart already knows.

And if you’ve been there, you know it’s not “just sad.” It’s something deeper. It’s like the world keeps moving, but your home feels… wrong.

I Don’t See “Pets.” I See Souls.

I have always been deeply connected to animals. When I look at a dog or a cat, I don’t just see a “pet.” I see a soul.

I see a little being who trusted you.
Who watched you cry and didn’t judge you.
Who stayed.
Who loved you on your worst days like you were still worthy of love (because you were).

When they hurt, I hurt. And when they leave us, I feel it like losing a piece of my own family—because that’s what they are.

They’re there for the big moments, sure—but they’re also there for the tiny ones that nobody else sees.

The 3 a.m. anxiety.
The bathroom guard duty.
The random zoomies that somehow saved your whole mood.
The way they could tell you were sad before you even admitted it out loud.

And then one day… they’re gone.

And people mean well, but they say things like:
“Just get another one.”
“At least you had them for a while.”
“They were just a pet.”

No. No. And absolutely not.

They were a chapter of your life you didn’t know you’d need so badly.

Being Sensitive Isn’t a Weakness

For a long time, I thought being this sensitive—this “empathetic”—was a weakness.

I thought I was “too much.”
Too emotional.
Too attached.
Too soft.

But I’ve learned something: this sensitivity is my superpower.

Because I feel the pain deeply, I also understand how powerful the love was.

And when love has nowhere to go—when it has no body to hug, no fur to hold, no warm little presence to reach for—it doesn’t disappear.

It just sits there.

Heavy.

Quiet.

Sometimes it turns into grief.
Sometimes it turns into guilt.
Sometimes it turns into a hole you don’t know how to fill.

And that’s where writing has always helped me.

Writing is where I take the heartbreak and give it somewhere to land.

A New Chapter for The Pederson Effect

That’s why I’m launching a new part of my writing journey today.

I am now offering Custom Pet Memorials.

This isn’t “content.” This is personal.

I want to help you take all that love that has nowhere to go and turn it into something you can hold. Something you can keep. Something you can read on the days it hits you out of nowhere.

Whether it’s a poem that captures your dog’s goofy personality, a tribute that honors your cat’s quiet loyalty, or a short story that brings you back to the day you met them—I want to help you immortalize them.

Because they deserve to be remembered as more than a date on a calendar.

I’m not just writing words. I’m writing legacies.

Why This Matters So Much to Me

Pet grief is real grief.

It’s the loss of routine.
The loss of comfort.
The loss of “I’m not alone in this room.”
The loss of the one who loved you without needing explanations.

And sometimes it’s also the loss of the version of you that existed when they were here.

That’s what makes it so brutal.

So if you’re reading this and you’ve been carrying that silence… I see you.

And I don’t want you to feel like you have to hold it alone.

How I Can Help You Heal

If you are missing a furry friend today, I have created a few ways to support you:

1) Custom Tribute Poem (Personalized)

A custom poem written from the heart—based on your pet’s story, personality, and the bond you shared.

This can be:

• sweet and gentle

• funny and real (yes, even goofy pets deserve goofy lines)

• deeply emotional

• or a mix of all of it (because grief is a mix of all of it)

2) Keepsake Card Design (Beautiful + Printable)

Along with your poem, I can design a keepsake-style card you can:

• print and frame

• keep in a memory box

• share with family

• or place somewhere special in your home

It’s a way to turn your love into something you can actually see.

3) Short Memorial Story (Optional Add-On)

If you want something longer than a poem, I can write a short tribute story—like:

• “the day we met”

• “their favorite things”

• “the little habits that made them them”

• “the ways they saved you without trying”

What I’ll Need From You (Simple + Gentle)

If you choose a custom memorial, I’ll ask you a few questions, like:

• your pet’s name and species/breed

• favorite quirks (did they steal socks? judge you from across the room? bark at nothing?)

• what you loved most about them

• a favorite memory

• and what tone you want (soft, funny, heartfelt, all of the above)

Don’t worry if you can’t write a novel. Even a few sentences is enough. I’m good at reading between the lines—especially when love is involved.

A Small Reminder (The Heart of This)

Animals teach us how to love unconditionally.

The least we can do is honor them unconditionally when they are gone.

If your heart has been heavy and your home has been quiet… this is me saying:

You don’t have to “move on” in some cold, rushed way.
You’re allowed to remember.
You’re allowed to grieve.
You’re allowed to keep loving them.

Ready for a Tribute?

If you’d like a custom pet memorial, leave a comment or reach out through my contact options on the site. Tell me your pet’s name and a little bit about them—and we’ll create something beautiful together.

Thank you for letting me be a part of your healing journey.

And to your furry friend:

You mattered.
You were loved.
You still are.

— M. 💚